Anger is a healthy response to pain

It bothers me when people tell you to forgive someone when they don’t even understand what they are asking you to do. What even is forgiveness? The definition of forgiveness is “to stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake.”

Anger is a secondary emotion. What does that mean? A secondary emotion is caused by feeling another emotion. An example would be if someone hurts you or causes pain, it creates a secondary emotion of anger.

So what happens with our trapped emotions with someone we need to forgive from childhood? For some, we feel that anger instead of the buried pain. So how are we supposed to let go of that anger without releasing the pain we are holding onto?

There are three steps to feeling an emotion.

1. Our body creates the frequency of that emotion

2. The second step is when we feel it or any thoughts that come along with that emotion

3. Step three is when we let it go and release it

A lot of us weren’t taught how to properly process our emotions and when you bypass step #2 or #3, which is a lot more common than you think, it creates a problem. If we don’t release that emotion, then it gets trapped in our energetic body. This is what creates an emotional trigger.

If anger is a secondary emotion, then shouldn’t the first step of forgiveness be to heal/release the pain that you are holding onto? I truly do believe that forgiveness is important but believe that it’s important to understand all that entails.

Anger is a healthy response to pain, and is part of the healing process. It tells you something is wrong.

You should never suppress your emotions in order to make it easier for someone else. If you aren’t addressing the pain you are holding onto, then really all you are doing is suppressing that in order to let go of your anger in order to forgive. Bottling up your emotions never ends well.

Obviously, forgiveness can be a lot more complicated than that, and every situation is different. I just think we need to have a little more grace and understanding when asking people to forgive when they are still holding onto their trauma.

Also, I think it’s important when you are granting forgiveness, is to ask yourself if you are only able to forgive and release the anger by suppressing how you feel? Make sure you give yourself the space to feel those emotions and let them out, that way you aren’t hurting yourself more in the process.

Talking about your emotions in therapy or with friends can be very helpful. But if you aren’t allowing yourself to feel that emotion and fully processing it and letting it go in step #3, then it isn’t leaving your energetic body..

I personally struggled with this for years in therapy. I talked and talked, i understood where all of my emotions were coming from. But I wasn’t allowing myself to feel it so I could release it. For me personally, energy healing was the tool to help me finally release all of my stored trauma.

Here's how energy healing can contribute to trauma release:

• Releasing Stuck Energy

• Emotional Cleansing

• Restoring Balance

• Reconnecting Mind and Body

• Empowerment and Self-Awareness
  

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